The Love Secret by Dr Sue Johnson

Old View of Love

  • Intimacy
  • Passion
  • Commitment

The first foremost instinct of humans is neither sex nor aggression.
It is to seek contact and comforting connection. (p19)

Sex may compel us to mate but it is love that assures our existence.

Adult romantic love is an attachment bond, just like the one between mother and child.

“A good relationship is the single best recipe for good health and the most powerful antidote to aging.”

Dr Bert Uchino, University of Utah
Lovers are a safe haven….

The Source of Relationship Distress: the fear that emotional connection — the font of all comfort and respite — is vanishing.